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Judy Lair is a licensed counselor and owner of Counselorplace Christian Counseling. She is the author of “From the Other Side of the Couch: A Biblical Counselor’s Guide to Relational Living.” Judy’s personal struggles with fear led her through the valley of hurt and sorrow. She now embraces a joy-filled life grounded in God’s truth and freedom in Christ. Judy uses her professional counseling expertise to tell stories that help people find healing and freedom. Her vulnerable, godly approach helps people find courage to move from Fear to Freedom. For more information or speaking requests, email JudyLair@counselorplace.com or sign up for blog posts at http://judylair.blogspot.com

 “Freedom is attainable. Trust me, I’ve been on the anxiety side, gone through the Valley of the Shadow of Death, and now I’m praising God, eating at the banqueting table, and helping others make the same journey. Whether you find yourself stuck in anxiety, disappointment, grief, or confusion, your heart can be set free.” Judy Lair, “From the Other Side of the Couch.”

Friday, January 9, 2015

Can We All Be Broken Together?



One of my clients this week introduced me to the new Casting Crowns song entitled Broken Together. The haunting music captured my attention and the words echo the burden I feel walking alongside hurting people. Seeing someone else have the same passion encouraged my heart.

The song speaks to the marriage relationship, but I think it should be applied to every relationship in our life. We have hopes, dreams, and expectations for our relationships -- and because we're fallen human beings, we are all disappointed and hurt. So what do you do with those feelings? Move toward one another or disengage? 

Read through the words below, listen to the song yourself and listen to how God moves your heart.

What do you think about when you look at me
I know we’re not the fairytale you dreamed we’d be
You wore the veil, you walked the aisle
You took my hand and we dove into a mystery
How I wish we could go back to simpler times
Before all our scars and all our secrets were in the light
Now on this hallowed ground, we’ve drawn the battle lines
Will we make it through the night?
It’s going to take much more than promises this time
Only God can change our minds.
Maybe you and I were never meant to be complete
Could we just broken together?
If you can bring your shattered dreams and I’ll bring mine
Could healing still be spoken and save us?
The only way we’ll last forever is broken together.
How it must have been so lonely by my side
We were building kingdoms and chasing dreams and left love behind
I’m praying God will help our broken hearts align
And we won’t give up the fight.

@2013 Sony/ATV Tree Publishing (BMI) All rights on behalf of Sony/ATV Tree Publishing administered by Sony/ATV. My Refuge Music (BMI) (adm. at Capitol CMGPublishing.com)/Songs of Universal, Inc. (BMI)/G650 Music (BMI)

It is my most sincere hope and prayer that 2015 brings a new revelation for Christians – God calls us to be broken together. Rather than trying to look perfect and hide our faults from each other, we commit to be vulnerable. We will share our shattered dreams, failures, weaknesses, fears, and anxieties with each other without shame or guilt. Fear separates us. Transparency allows opportunities for healing and growth.

What does broken together mean to you? How will you move toward your brokenness with others?

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